Honestly, I don't know, my concept of revenge is more immediate and then shake off all the attached feelings. Even for a long game, though, that's a weird way to get things figured out.

( It doesn't even really do great as a "get him to care about me then ruthlessly break his heart," because he cannot, for his life, imagine Xie Lian has caused that brand of pain even unintentionally for anyone so far in his life. )

Mah, do ask, don't ask, go with what seems to fit your mood and how you get along. I say ask, but that's just my opinion on things.